My top 3 tips for Mothers this Mother’s Day

My child is NOT ME

Yes I know what the right thing to do is. I have a good idea of which actions to take in order to obtain the most desirable outcome. I have a strong mind and my taste in people, places and things work in my favour. But I’m 23 years older than my son and I belong to Generation X while he is a Millennial. Things were (obviously) different in my generation. Our parents were different, our life experiences were different, our peers were different, our teachers and mentors were different; the economical, cultural and social landscape was different but that didn’t stop me from trying to make him think, feel and act the way I would have at his age???!!! Clearly that never worked out for either of us because of all the reasons stated above. The more I pushed for us to be aligned in our values and beliefs, the more evident it became that we weren’t. My son is not and will never be ME and the day I stopped fighting it and chose to see things through his lenses was the day our relationship took a turn for the better. Through exercising more compassion and understanding, I’ve gotten much more out of our relationship. He’s less guarded and more open to allowing me in knowing that I will try my best to put myself in his shoes. The more I see him for himself and not for who I want him to be, the more room I give him to grow into a healthy, well-adjusted young man.

No. 2

I do NOT know everything

I may have had some major life experiences and gone through things many may have not, BUT I am not THE KNOWER OF EVERYTHING. I don’t know what it’s like to be a 20year old struggling with young people problems in 2018. I don’t know what the hype with Snapchat is about or how to use words such as Bae, Lit and Feels without sounding like an absolute moron. And this is just me stating a few things about growing up in this generation that I’m not familiar with. Don’t even get me started on what it’s like to have my life splashed all over Facebook with or without my consent or to worry about when or where that questionable photo of me will show up, or how my relationship status should become public knowledge the moment I’m in or out of one! All these stresses and demands are things I know little or nothing about and I should admit that as a parent. My child may know way more than me in some instances and my willingness to switch roles and be the learner and listener has proven to be extremely helpful in improving our communication with each other. He has expressed appreciation for the times I’ve shown vulnerability and unawareness. In his own words he says it makes me ‘more human and relatable’ and I can deal that because I am:)

No. 3

I AM Mother first, friend second

Being a single mother (before I tied the knot again 4 years ago), I always felt the need to over compensate and because I didn’t have much money I did it with leniency. I wanted so badly to win my child’s approval, that the thought of denying him of anything was usually the last resort. My idea of a great mother-child relationship was one where he could feel free to say or do anything around me. This is when I learnt that being flexible and being lenient are not one and the same. Clear boundaries should always be set. While it’s fun to be the fun parent and nice to see our child feel comfortable around us, our role is not to make life and fun and comfortable as possible, our role is to nurture and guide them. We should never forget that we are role models in their eyes and role models have a specific role to play. A role which influences our child positively. Saying NO is necessary sometimes and we should not second guess ourselves when we do. Age appropriate chores and tasks help our children learn responsibility. Setting expectations and holding them accountable for wrongdoings is a prerequisite. It’s always going to be tough to strike a balance but not doing so could result in a much tougher road ahead. So remember, you can be their pal but you should be their Mother first.

With that, Happy Mother’s Day!!!



I’m not a diamonds and pearls girl. I’m not even a bags girl but I do know and love my fragrances. My love for perfumes began with my maternal grandmother who smelled like roses, thanks to the Charlie fragrance she always had on. Hence my strong appreciation for floral scents.

Fragrances do for me what Hermes bags or 20 carat diamond rings do for most women. I love it when I walk into a room and get asked what perfume I’m wearing. I especially love it when I’m told I smell lovely. It gives me a major boost and puts me in the perfect mood each time. I stumbled upon Good Girl by Carolina Herrera as I was walking through the Mall of the Emirates in Dubai. A salesgirl walked up to me and gave me a whiff. Usually I’m not one to buy a bottle of perfume recommended to me by a salesperson. What I normally do is go online and check out top 10 fragrances of the year and then I go to the store and test them all out before I make the purchase. But it was different with Good Girl. I was sold on the spot. It’s an everyday perfume for the good girl who knows how to be bad (ME). The smell of white Sambac jasmine and tuberose in contrast with the mysterious notes of tonka bean and cocoa are just so inviting to say no to.

Buying perfume is one thing, but applying it correctly is another. Here’s how it’s done:

And remember:
1. Don’t cover your perfume up with your clothing.
2. Sweat can destroy your scent faster than you’d like.
3. Don’t RUB, just spray!
4. Apply perfume on your HAIR. It sticks and stays on longer.
5. Moisturise before applying. Smooth and soft skin lock the scent in better.
6. Spray 5 to 7 inches away for best results.
7. Reapply every 4 hours
8. OWN your scent. Wear it like a rock star!!!

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KnowMe 2018 – Get to Know Rare Disorders Society of Singapore (RDSS) with iROO

It was one the rarest moments in my life; meeting with the families of RDSS opened my eyes to a world ALL of us should learn more about and certainly become involved in. I was in awe of the strength and resilience these family members displayed. Our daily struggles are nowhere close to theirs, yet all I saw was hope, tenacity and fulfilment on each of their faces. It’s experiences like these that give me a whole new perspective on what’s important and what’s not. And this is why I choose to be part of the iROO/RDSS KnowMe2018 Campaign Drive.

Why Support this Cause?

RDSS members are faced with several issues such as insults and criticism hurled at them or people simply avoiding them believing that patients with rare diseases are contagious etc. Only when the members from RDSS get together do they feel stronger and motivated by each other. Can you imagine being on the receiving end of such negativity all because people don’t know enough? Isn’t that sad and frustrating to say the least? This is why spreading the word and  learning as much as we can about rare disorders and doing what we can to raise awareness is so critical. We can grow and see change only when we do our part to make it happen. 

Only $6.80 for a great cause at iROO stores islandwide
iROO Limited Edition ‘Know Me’ Charity T-shirt

Want to play your part and fun have doing it?
An outing to the Jurong Bird Park will be held on 5 May also to honour all mothers from RDSS families in conjunction with Mother’s Day.  The nett proceeds from the sale of the Charity T-shirts will also be officially donated to RDSS on this day.  The media is invited to join us for this closing event. Do come!

About RDSS
The Rare Disorders Society (Singapore) is currently the only organisation focusing and supporting only on rare disease patients in Singapore. Unlike other charities that focus on specific disease group or made rare genetic disease as one of the supported group, RDSS accepts and supports ALL patients currently diagnosed with rare diseases, including those undiagnosed cases.

There’s so much good work to be done and tons of fun to be had doing it. We hope you come onboard, lend a hand and learn while you’re at it!

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SkinCeuticals Phloretin CF Serum – The Mother of all serums

With the new year comes being a year older and with that comes a certain level of anxiety. While it may not mean much when you’re 18 or 25, it starts to have more of an impact once you hit 35 AND you’re a woman. I hate admitting it but I’ve found freedom in verbalizing my fears, one of them being the woes of aging. I truly dread the day my wrinkles start to show and my skin starts to sag. I won’t make any apology for sounding superficial because you & I both know that we all have the same fear even if we differ in our approach to addressing it. It’s there. It exist.

I know of some who decide to go on and on about growing old and the ailments that come with it. I know of some who truly believe that age is just a number and act whichever number they resonate with most. And then there’s ME. I fall somewhere in between, where I’ve come to accept that I am getting older yet I still haven’t found the need to turn into a granny just yet. I am on a mission to look as young as I can for as long as I can and if you are too, then follow me.

So what do I do now that it’s 2018 and I’ve about to turn (not telling you)? I use whatever anti-aging weapons that are available to me. My favourite weapon TODAY being the SkinCeuticals Phloretin CF Serum.
You may wonder how my relationship with SkinCeuticals began. Well, here’s the short version. I’d been using Clarins, Lancome, Kiehls, Loccitane, Avene, just to name a few, eons ago. And while all these products have done me well, SkinCeuticals blew em all out the water.

I have dark skin and although that comes with certain benefits, most of us tend to have hyperpgimentation, uneven skintones, light coloured patches here and there and dark patches on our chins etc. And unlike women with light skin, we aren’t spoilt for choice in the cosmetics department. Covering up our flaws while maintaining a radiant glow is an arduous task. Most of us tend to look grey even with colour correctors and bronzers. And this is exactly the reason why focussing on SKINCARE, as opposed to the best concealor in the market, is key.

Think about it this way. Even if we did master the art of perfect makeup for our skintone, we’d still be miserable when the foundations, blushers and powders come off. Which woman does not mind looking bad without her makeup on? NONE! I like to see my skin looking bright and my skintone even, when my makeup’s off. I love not having to hate looking in the mirror at night before I go to bed or in the morning when I wake up. Hence my search for the perfect serum began from the moment I turned 35. Through all that filtering, googling, shopping, speaking to beauticians and skin therapists, I learned that Vitamin C is a superstar for its proven antioxidant properties and that a good serum with vitamin C will make all the difference. Hence I was fortunate to finally find and fall in love with SKINCEUTICALS PHLORETIN CF 7 months ago. My skin has become visibly more even, supple and certainly younger looking. Dolling myself up takes less effort and the BEST part, I can now leave the house with practically nothing on my face and still be told I have great skin!!!

A friend once said to me that when you have something good in hand, the right thing to do is to share it. So I’ve decided to share this remarkable find with you.

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Protect and transform your skin with SkinCeuticals Phloretin CF, a daytime face serum with antioxidant Vitamin C to help keep skin safe from damaging environmental factors.

Working to protect skin while diminishing the appearance of fine lines and discoloration, the serum melts effortlessly in, and once absorbed, will remain effective for a minimum of 72 hours. Utilizing a patented synergistic combination of 2% Phloretin, 10% Pure Vitamin C (L-Ascorbic Acid), and 0.5% Ferulic Acid, the formula delivers enhanced protection against atmospheric skin aging, such as UVA/UVB rays and ozone pollution, and will improve skin tone to promote a more even-looking complexion.

Ideal for normal, oily and combination skin types.

Free from parabens, fragrance and dye.

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