I’ve been hosting events since 2008, officially that is. Unofficially, I’ve been hosting events since 2005. I used to host small events like birthday parties and lunches till I was confident and good enough to host major events like gala dinners, product launches, road shows, grand openings etc.
The last time I had a sip of alcohol was 5 years ago. I was celebrating my birthday with family and friends in Clarke Quay. I had a great night but (no surprise) the worst morning. My recollection of that night was a blur, as with all the drunken nights prior to that one.
So I’ve been questioning many things about my kind lately and by my kind I mean human beings. I question our acceptance and disapproval sex and nudity, infidelity, ‘bad’ parenting, poverty, wealth, stupidity, betrayal, superficiality…
Being a people lover and having studied my kind since I knew how to effectively, I have learned a thing or two about how we think, act and feel. Being female has naturally given me more of an inkling as to how my gender rolls. I’m a girl’s girl.
Being ignored is as enjoyable as being spat in the face or cursed at. No one likes to feel insignificant. It’s one thing to be treated badly but another to be ignored completely.
The second time I was abused, I found myself in hospital. That was the moment when I realised that I cannot stay here in this marriage. There was no reason for me to stay. My children were growing up, and my daughter was old enough to understand what was happening.
Human beings fear the unknown and as a result we are quick to put labels on everything. Knowing what we’re dealing with puts our curious minds at ease and helps us move on to the next thing. We don’t have to sit with the frustration of trying to ‘figure it all out’.
- Your beauty – So we’ve heard them say ‘beauty is only skin deep’, ‘beauty fades’, ‘a pretty face will only get you so far’ and this may well be true BUT beauty is also God-given, so why should it be slighted? Who does not love beautiful things? How many of us actually gush over unattractive movie stars? Do we ever get weak in the presence of ugly?
- People who do not LIKE our Facebook posts– Think about it this way. Sometimes people like what we have to say and sometimes they don’t. Sometimes people like how we look and sometimes they don’t.
As we welcome 2017, we tend to think most about the things we did or did not do in 2016. We can’t stop ourselves from making new year’s resolutions even if we no longer believe in them. There’s too much to pursue and accomplish going forward and time is of the essence. We must bring ourselves a million steps closer to our dreams. If so many others have done so, why can’t we? Why is it taking us so long to achieve our goals and be truly happy with who we are and where we are?